| Location | Coventry |
| Age | 2 years |
| Cause of Death | Accident |
| Date of Birth | 02/05/2003 |
| Date of Death | 24/09/2005 |
| Visitors | 13,565 since 09/10/2005 |
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Tejay was always such a lively child full of energy and life, never sitting still for a moment.
His main loves were cars and motorbikes just like his dad and he loved to go out in the car with dad
or down the garage to help fix his cars, he was always getting the car keys and putting them in his
toy car and driving round the living room.
He also loved to annoy people, any one who came round had to keep a firm hold on there phone or keys
or he would swipe them and run off and hide them, when you'd ask him where they were it was always
the same reply, he'd look round so innocently and say "gone".
his favorite words were gone got or no and of course mum which he would say every two minutes or so
just to make sure I hadn't gone anywhere with out him.
he loved to snuggle up on the sofa and watch tractor tom or bob the builder with his blank and
pillow sucking his thumb, his blank came every where with him, which wouldn't be so bad but it's not
a little blank.
He really touched so many people's hearts in his short life it's amazing.
The Funeral.
This was and is the most difficult thing I have ever done in my life. But I was determined I would
give my baby the send off he deserved, so I went into organization mode without really thinking
about what I was organizing if that makes sense.
I went to the funeral directors a few streets away from home and arranged for them to bring him to
there chapel of rest, my reason being it was the closest to home I could get him, so I could be with
him as much as possible.
I'd decided I was going to have him buried in his pj's, as he was sleeping in my eyes, so naturally
he needed his jarmies, I tried a few times to go through his clothes to sort some out for him, but
just couldn't do it. So in the end I decided to buy him some new ones thinking it would be easier to
do. How wrong I was.
I was in the shop trying to look at jarmies and I just couldn't I walked up to them a few times,
then walked away again. In the end after giving myself a good talking to, much to the other shoppers
disbelief, thinking back I must have looked like a mad woman standing there telling myself to pull
myself together and just buy some bloody pj's. I picked up a beautiful blue fleece sleep suit with a
picture of a dinosaur and underneath it said night night, sleep tight. I paid for it with tears
streaming down my face.
My next big hurdle was choosing a coffin, that was just awful. In the end I decided I couldn't have
a white one for him, as he's never been a child you could dress in white, typical boy really only
happy if he's dirty. So I asked them to paint it for me, they did. It was painted a lovely sky blue.
Seeing him in it at the chapel for the first time will stay with me forever, he looked like he was
sleeping, all wrapped up in his blank. I wanted to shake and tell him to wake up stop messing around
just wake up.
I spent most of the next three days there with him, sitting there talking to him, touching him,
kissing him.
Then came the day they closed the coffin, that was so hard knowing I had to walk away knowing I
would never see him again, I just couldn't leave I couldn't. My Friend had to take me in the end.
Monday 10th October 2005.
The day had arrived, the day I was terrified of.
The hearse arrived with Tejay, I couldn't bear to look at first. We walked up behind it to the
church at the top of the street, they got the coffin out of the hearse, I had to look now, I
couldn't see through my tears, I think the only reason me and Terry my husband and Tejays dad made
it through the service was because we held each other up.
We entered the church to the sound of the crazy frog playing, one of Tejay's favorite songs I had to
smile as I could see him in my mind wiggling his bum and dancing to it.
To be completely honest I don't really remember much more of the service it's all a blur. I was
going to read my letter I'd written to Tejay ( it's in the tribute and condolences section) but the
priest did it for me in the end. A friend stood up and told every one about Tejay, she did so well
and was so brave, I will be forever grateful to her.
The next thing I knew we were in the car following the hearse to the cemetery for the burial, this
was the part I was dreading the most and will never ever forget, when they lowered his little body
into the ground all I wanted was to be in there with him, I couldn't take my eyes from the coffin
down there. I was led away to look at the flowers, what flowers were there I didn't know. There were
so many people and flowers, but who they were and what flowers they were there I couldn't say.
All I could think about was my baby was gone. Gone and I'd never see him again.
A Silent Tear
Just close your eyes and you will see
All the memories that you have of me
Just sit and relax and you will find
I'm really still there inside your mind
Don’t cry for me now I'm gone
For I am in the land of song
There is no pain, there is no fear
So dry away that silent tear
Don’t think of me in the dark and cold
For here I am, no longer old
I'm in that place that’s filled with love
Known to you all, as "UP ABOVE"
By Gaynor Llewellyn
Our memories build a special bridge
when loved ones have to part
to help us feel we're with them still
and sooth a grieving heart.
Our memories span the years we shared,
preserving ties that bind,
They build a special bridge of love
and bring us peace of mind.
By Emily Matthews
love u
Its almost that time of year again son, its nearly 4 years since i lost u and it still hurts as much as it did the first day, i still miss u as much as i did the day u went, people say the pain goes away over time they are wrong it never goes away u just learn to hide it from people.
I love u soo much tejay and would give anything to have u in my arms again.
miss u
mummy xxx
hello little man
just popped in to say hiya little man, your brother & sisters have been playing with my lot today again,
demmi & my damian are the best of mates & tell each other every think. you sound like a right little man & demmi misses you so-so much. i am now crying my eyes out with these songs mummy has put on for you & people dont see me cry often. that bright star in the sky is you looking after mummy & your brother & sisters. xxxxxx
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27TH JUNE 2009
~~~AS THE SUN CAME UP~~~
As the sun came up this morning
I watched you there below
Your hearts were oh so heavy
But there's something you should know.
I'm not gone dont worry
I'm just a step ahead
And Im with you Every Single Day
As you rise up from your bed.
I am the sun that warms you
I am the moons soft glow
I am the stars that twinkle
And light your path below.
So when at times you miss me
Just look for me Im there
For you cannot hide my spirit
I am with you everywhere.
Nothing is ever truly gone
like a puddle of water after the rain
It evaporates back into the clouds
and sometime later returns again.
Like the memory you'll forever hold
of your loved one thats pasted and gone.
They are a part of your thoughts and heart
therefore they'll forever live on.
Yet as for now they are resting
for now they are at peace.
Say so long, never goodbye,
until once again in heaven you'll meet.
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As the sun goes down, I wish you 'Goodnight'. x x
Written by Sam and Jimmy Winson
FOR THOSE I HAVE LEFT BEHIND
I have not gone far...I still see...
Those tears you shed...are for me...
I am not unhappy...I am not sad...
I just thank God...For all we had...
I did not choose...To go away...
But God told me...I couldn't stay...
He reached for me...with loving care...
Come with me child...If you dare...
Reach out your arms...to those below...
Blow them a kiss...So they will know...
Let the breeze of your kiss... Pass across their brow...
Let them know you are safe...and happy now...
Now dry your eyes...And remember me...
For where I am...Was meant to be...
To you that I have left behind...
The love we've shared...Will always bind...
If a breeze should pass...Across your brow...
Remember from where it came...And how...
Until we meet again one day...
I've not gone far... I am just away..
Original Poem By: Joanne T. Romano (2001)
He is Gone
You can shed tears that he is gone,
Or you can smile because he lived,
You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can't see him
Or you can be full of the love that you shared,
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on,
You can cry and close your mind be empty and turn your
back,
Or you can do what he would want: smile, open your eyes,
love and go on.
Tejay im missing you so much babe! I just wish you were down here smiling over us all, making everyones days abit more brighter, today for some reason all ive wanted to do was just to cuddle you and for you to smile at me to make me aware that everything was going to be ok! I love you so much little man, everyday is another day closer to you but it just isnt close enough yet! I really want someone to grant me one wish, that would be to bring you back!! xx i love you xx
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